Sometimes You Find Guidance In The Greenest Recruit
1. Ask for help
Kid Wisdom: My boy asked me for help with his shoes the other day and it struck me how open and honest he is. There was no guile or shame.
Nick: Building a network at my coworking space has been an ‘ask for help’ guiding star. Everyone here is so happy to collaborate. It reminds me ‘networking’ doesn’t have to be a dirty word.
2. Be in the moment
Kid Wisdom: When my boy plays with his cars, his focus is a wonder. The house could be falling around him and he’d not stop concentrating.
Nick: It’s overwhelming to think about the billion things needing to be done to further your business. Ask yourself, at any given time amongst that jumble: “What’s the most important thing right now?”
3. Give yourself a pat on the back
Kid Wisdom: I bought my son an ice-cream last week and his joy was a shining lesson in how to be happy with good outcomes.
Nick: Saying “Well done!” to yourself once in a while (read ‘every day’) is time well spent. We are all quick to self-criticism but equally, you must self-congratulate when the occasion deserves.
4. Be work-smart
Kid Wisdom: My boy puts in the effort to collect scattered Lego if he wants it for today’s spaceship. He never fills up Carpet Time by gathering random bricks.
Nick: I’ve always lived by ‘a hard day’s work’ but early on I was into the ‘Man goes to work, does long hours’ tradition that I wasn’t work-smart. You must ask: “What’s the best use of my time?” not: “How much can I do in the time I have?”
5. Be proud of your passion
Kid Wisdom: My kid gave me a pirate ship he’d drawn that was more like a run-over crow! But he was so proud of it. On the fridge it went. We love it.
Nick: I had a chip on my shoulder about my party biz. I was asked by a friend of my brother’s what I do, so I said: “I’m in sales” and left it. My brother couldn’t understand, but I wanted to prove my intelligence; be taken seriously.
6. Be authentic
Kid Wisdom: When Number One Son has to leave his best mate’s house, he cries enough to break your heart. It’s deep and he’s not scared to show his feelings.
Nick: The sooner you can get out of your own way and say how it is, the better. Things not going well? Admit it, take responsibility, take action. Someone performing well? Tell them straight away.
7. Let go
We’re on a learning curve with this one, if I’m honest! When my boy wants to take a remote control into the bath, there’s a distinct lack of ‘let go’ zen.
Nick: Being a boss, like parenting, is a daily process of letting go. When you’ve the courage to bring someone in, you have to let them get on with it. Don’t micro-manage: you took them on because you read their potential. Trust them – and yourself.
You’re never too old to learn. Be humble, be open and take the note – even when it comes from an unexpectedly small and cute source.